The gap between men and women

1 hour

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I am Ellen Worm, ceremonial speaker, coach and writer.
From my own life journey, I guide people through important moments of love, loss and inner growth.
I lead ceremonies such as self fidelity, symbolic weddings and intimate funerals, always with an eye for meaning and connection.
I also give interactive presentations on high sensitivity, self-love and boundaries.
My work revolves around awareness: coming home to yourself and being true to your own heart.
Only from there can true connection with the other emerge.

The Gap

We live in a time when the gap between many men and the conscious woman is becoming painfully visible. And actually this is positive: it clears up old patterns. The pattern that many men are primarily focused on lust, power and achievement has existed since prehistoric times. Back then, that behavior was necessary for survival, hunting and fighting. The difference is that women today are less and less likely to choose a relationship from dependence. They are independent, follow their hearts and make choices that suit themselves.

Many men lag behind in personal development because they remain stuck in the old pattern of control. They still grow up with the message, "Be strong, don't show emotions, take care of it, perform." This gives a sense of security, but avoids vulnerability. Our culture has taught men to suppress emotions, and therefore the heart is often closed. This lacks sufficient healthy role models.

So the fact that women increasingly choose to remain single does not surprise me. They are self-sufficient, emotionally more developed and no longer dependent on a man to survive. Thanks to self-help, therapy and inner work, they have discovered that they are complete in themselves - they don't need a man to feel whole or loved.

Research shows that 1 in 10 men have characteristics of a psychopath and 10-15% show strong traits of manipulation, self-centeredness or lack of empathy. This is not saying they are dangerous, but rather that there is often little emotional depth or empathy. Add to that the men who close their hearts, avoid responsibility or live only from lust, and you can see how great a challenge it is for women who do want to be in genuine connection.

The conscious woman longs for intimacy: for openness, honesty and real commitment. She seeks a partner who does not flee or look away, but remains present - even when the going gets tough. What she often encounters is the opposite: ghosting, avoidance, superficiality. This is not only painful, it widens the gap.

The crux of the problem is this:
Many men get stuck in lust, doing and performing.
Many women live from their hearts, feelings and desire for connection.
When these two worlds do not truly meet, emptiness arises. Men get caught up in superficial gratification, women don't feel seen or carried.

✨ The invitation is clear:
Men: open your heart, dare to be vulnerable and present.
Women: stay true to yourself. Don't Pleas, don't do things that don't feel right, follow your intuition. Don't stay with a man "for love," because true love starts with yourself!

Self-love and absolute self-acceptance can only be given to yourself. Only from that foundation can true connection occur.

Over three years ago I made a video about this with my own experiences around men and dating. The video is not perfect - I make some funny mistakes - but it is real.

I marry women (and men) to themselves. That question alone says it all: more and more people have had enough of dependency and are choosing to put themselves first. We live in different times. The strength and wholeness that used to be sought in another, we now find in ourselves.

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